What Do You Talk About?

"Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people." - Eleanor Roosevelt

What do you talk about? What do you discuss with your friends or your peers? Do you talk about how successful you can become? Your dreams and goals? Or do you talk about how bad the economy is? How hard it is to cope during the month? Or do you gossip about someone else?

What we say reflects the life or circumstances we create for ourselves. We need to watch what we say. The words that come out of our mouths are very powerful and they impact on our beliefs.

We need to start talking about positive things more often. So let us start speaking more positive words and living these positive lives.

To Your Success.

Identify Your Destructive Beliefs.

We all have destructive beliefs. It is these beliefs that hold us back and keep us from attaining our true potential. We need to relieve ourselves from these beliefs, but we cannot start changing our destructive beliefs and working our constructive beliefs till we know exactly what these beliefs are.

We need to unveil our negative beliefs, these beliefs that are preventing us from reaching our potential. Once we have identified these beliefs, we can start making changes.

For example: If you think that it is difficult to succeed in today’s economy, then realise that this belief will prevent you from succeeding.

Once the negative beliefs are identified, we need to start changing them to positive ones. Start believing that good things can happen … today!

To Your Success.

Purpose.

We are all on this planet for one very specific reason. And that is to positively impact other people the way that only we can. This is our responsibility to humanity. We all have our purpose in life and it is up to us to find it and fulfil it.

What it means is that we must find our strongest talents and put them to use. Where you are right now, your career, your life, your situation is all part of your purpose. But it is not the be all and end all of it, but rather a stepping stone towards greater fulfilment.

Our purpose is our zeal, your clout. It is the essential inspiration of our lives. It gives our lives purpose and meaning. This inspiration forces us to make a difference in our world. Make a difference.

To Your Success.

Think You Can.

I thought I would share with you one of the PEP talks I get everyday in my email. Enjoy.

Hi Jan

“Think you can, or think you can’t. Either way you will be right.” – Henry Ford

Brain Edwards, one of Australia’s top life insurance salesmen, a man of infectious good humour and spirits, spends ten minutes every evening before he goes to bed running over in his mind his next day’s appointments. He pictures himself making his presentations to his clients. He sees them being receptive and gladly taking out a policy with him. He imagines a very productive day with lots of sales. He does this for 10 minutes before going to bed and 10 minutes on rising in the morning. A total of 20 minutes each day. Brian sells life insurance with the ease and skill that other men only dream about.

How does he do it? He develops his success belief and shapes his reality, by using his mind's power.

You can do it too, Jan!

Affirmations:
I visualize every day
I am disciplined
I achieve success

Be all you can be, Jan.

With Fond Regards

Arnfried Klein-Werner
Motivator & CEO – Be Motivated Today

To Your Success.

Mistakes

We all make mistakes at one point or another in our lives. And I am not talking about the ones you can tipex out . How we deal with these mistakes determine how we will grow in the future. We might have made mistakes yesterday, we may make some more today, if not, tomorrow.

Mistakes are a part of our lives whether we like it or not. The secret is to accept them and learn from them. Don’t go and say:

“This is terrible, I made a mistake I am such an idiot!”

Rather say:

“Wow, now that was exciting! What can I learn from this?”

Learning from your mistakes is all that matters, if you don’t then you will keep smashing your head against that bloody brick wall . Learning from our mistakes is what makes us better at well everything; better bosses, better friends, etc. It is how we learn improve our finances.

Over time we will make fewer mistakes, and start becoming experts at living and life itself. So don’t be afraid of making mistakes, everyone has, at some point in there lives, made a mistake or million. Carry on trying. Carry on taking risks. Carry on making mistakes. And most importantly keep learning.

To Your Success.

Believe In Success!

How many of us really believe we can succeed at something we are doing? Think about it … when you attempt something, do you really (and I mean REALLY) believe you will make a success of it? If you do then congrats! But many of us have these little nagging doubts in the back of our heads, don’t we?

Well I am here to tell you that it is up to you to decide to be positive and defeat those little nagging thoughts. Choosing to be positive leads to hope, and that leads to self confidence. Even though we may only have a few facts to support our belief.

To quote a famous American writer, “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller (1180-1968)

It is said that Thomas Edison made 10000 attempts before he succeeded at creating the light bulb. So even if it takes you 10000 attempts, keep on keeping on. Believe you can and will succeed. You will.

To Your Success.

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Gratitude!

The power of gratitude. I am sure we have all asked ourselves at some point “I wish they would be more grateful.” or “Why should I be more grateful?” We as humans have an undying need to receive gratitude from others. We need to know that what we have done means something. But it goes both ways.

You need to be grateful yourself. It helps you enjoy life more. reduces stress and helps us accomplish our goals no matter how daunting they seem. There is no doubt that being grateful can help change our lives, but during times of suffering and heartache it becomes difficult. So how do we remain grateful in times of strife, when we are faced with “endless” hardships, when there just doesn’t seem to be anything to be grateful for?

BREATHE

We often get involved in a vicious cycle of “if only”.

“If only the job came through, then I would be grateful”

“If only the kids would behave, then I would say thanks”

“If only I could win the lotto”

If only, if only, if only …

The problem with this is that normally, when the if only happens, we tend to just move on to the next if only and forget to say thanks. Or we concentrate so much on that one if only that we fail to notice all the other things in our lives to be grateful for.

So let us begin, right now, right here, with something simple. There really is so much for us to be grateful for. We just tend to miss the good bits.

Now sit quietly. Take a deep breath. Feel it fill you up completely. Don’t exhale yet keep it all in there. Now take a few more breathes in, really let it fill your body. Keep breathing till you cannot breath anymore, really pack that air in.

Now keep it in. Feel it getting all tight inside you. Is it starting to feel uncomfortable? Maybe you are feeling like you are about to burst?

Well now let it all out. Let all the air escape from your lungs, then force the of it out till there is nothing left.

So how did it feel? When you were finally allowed to release the air? Good?

Well if your battling to find something to be grateful for then start with something basic, like your breathe. It keeps us alive. It remind us we still live. And I think that is something amazing to be grateful for …  don’t you?

So you see, there is always something to be grateful for. Our eyes the ability to read this post, a roof over our heads, our gift of hearing. I hope this post has enlightened you is some way.

To your success.

How to Communicate With People … Again :)

This will be the last post in the series on how to communicate with people. At Be Motivated Today there are tons more information like this so please go visit them and let me know what you think. Lets get cracking shell we?

TAKE ACTION: When things are looking dull and nothing seems to be going on, then it is up to you to take action. Don’t blame others for you current situation if you are not satisfied with it, be proactive and do something about it. Let us be honest, no body really cares if you are not happy or satisfied. Get off your behind and do something.

ENJOY YOUR LIFE: If you want others to like you and enjoy your company then you need to let them know that you’re fun to be with. All work and no play makes Johnny sad boy (or something like that). You need to go out and have some fun. Live your life to the fullest!

FACE YOUR FEARS: Simply put … go out and meet new people. If you want to do something that is logical but your emotions are getting the better of you, then you need to take stock of your situation and use some sense.

BE OPEN MINDED: We live in a world with a huge variety of people out there. They have different religions, cultures, languages, etc. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be.

That is the end of that. I hope these tips will help you to communicate better with people in the future. Please feel free to comment on any of my posts, I would really like to here your opinions.

To your success.

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How To Communicate With People … cont..

In my previous post I delved in some tips on how to communicate with people. In this post I am going to continue with some more tips.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS: We have all heard the expression … “First impressions last”. Well people tend to judge every aspect of you from their first impressions of you. So try and make an effort to make a good initial impression, it will save you loads of trouble in the future.

SPEAK WELL: In order to have great communication skills, you need to be able to maintain an intelligent conversation, not speak a lot and blabber about whatever you feel like. You need to listen to what you are saying and learn to articulate and choose your words well.

LISTEN: How many of you drift away into lala land when someone starts speaking to you? Well if you really don’t give a rats ass about the person, then ok. But if you do, then you need to make the effort to listen to what that person is saying. It will help you tremendously.

STAY IN TOUCH: Keep in touch with your acquaintances. Make sure you maintain the best possible relationship with them by calling or writing them once is a while. Just contact them and let them know you still exist.

To your success.

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How To Communicate With People.

Not all of us are blessed with the gift of communicating with people. Fortunately you probably just haven't been properly educated. So in the next few blog posts I am going to give some tips on how to communicate with people.

EYE CONTACT: Most of us have the very bad habit of looking down at the floor when we are talking to someone. We need to learn to look them in the eyes. It is extremely important to keep eye contact during a conversation.

POSTURE: This is important, because when we slouch we exude insecurity and lack of self esteem. Stand up straight, it also makes you look taller, looking taller is a good thing.

SMILE: Well this is somewhat self explanatory, Smile more, no one likes to spend time with someone who is in a bad mood. If you do find yourself in a bad mood and not up to smiling, then try and keep your distance. But try to make an effort to smile. Just do it … close your eyes, think of something that will make you happy … and SMILE. It will do wonders for you, I promise.

MEET PEOPLE: We tend to try and avoid strangers (I am extremely guilty of this one myself). I know, as kids, we were taught never to talk to strangers. But … hey … we are grown up now (well at least some of us are), so its ok now. In order to learn to communicate with people, we need to be comfortable with speaking to anybody. So make a point of it today to go out and greet a total stranger today.

To your success.

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Body Language

What is Body Language?

Reading body language, which contributes greatly to communication, can be a little difficult to master. A person’s body language can confirm or contradict that person’s words by either showing positive or negative body language. Body language can reveal the true intentions or feelings of a person, more so than words.

For Example: You are at a party, having a conversation with someone. He/She asks a question about yourself, but you can see from his/her eye contact that he/she is not really interested in what you have to say, because he/she is looking around, perhaps for some more interesting conversation. Now how would that make you feel?

People can very quickly pick up, via your body language, whether you are interested in what they have to say. So don’t let your body language give the wrong message. Let your body language show that you are interested. Always maintain eye contact and don’t get distracted when someone is trying to speak to you.

To Your Success.

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A Little Prayer To Get Us Through The Week.

Dear God
Please untie the knots
that are in my mind,
my heart and my life.
Remove the have not's,
the can not's and the do not's
that I have in my mind.

Erase the will not's,
may not's,
might not's that may find
a home in my heart.

Release me from the could not's,
would not's and
should not's that obstruct my life.

And most of all,
Dear God,
I ask that you remove from my mind,
my heart and my life all of the ‘am not's
that I have allowed to hold me back,
especially the thought
that I am not good enough.

Amen

Author Known To God.

How To Write Out Your Goals Part II.

In my previous post I explained what steps to take in writing out your goals. In this post I am going to elaborate on the subject a little more.

As I explained before you need to write your goals in the present tense, avoid any negative words like “No”, use “I am” as much as possible and use descriptive and emotional words. In this I am going to use two examples to elaborate further.

Lets say you want to loose weight or (like 99% of the people in the world) earn lots of mooney, hell who doesn’t … right? So you would like to loose weight or earn extra cash, well you can’t just write down “I want to loose weight” or “I want to earn more money”, it will never work. You need to be specific, you need to say EXACTLY what you want.

You need to say something in the line of;

“I want to loose 40Kg by the end of December of the next year” or “I want to earn R50 000 a month”. You need to be SPECIFIC about your goals.

Then you need to imagine what life would be like when you have achieved these goals. Something like;

“I will feel great and full of energy” or “I am more confident with myself” or “I will go on vacation where ever I want” or “I will go out more”.

Next you need to decide what action you are going to take to achieve these goals. You might say;

“I will do 20 push ups every day” or “I will make 20 extra sales calls a day” or “I will exercise every morning” or “I will study for my degree”.

Lastly you need to remember that how you achieve your goals is not necessarily the way YOU think YOU will, and actually most times it never turns out to be the way that YOU think it will be.

So keep flexible with your action plans.

To your success.

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