Hi,
The number one reason why people are not assertive is: fear. We are afraid of what others will think, say or do. This is quite normal, because no one likes to upset or inconvenience people. But being assertive usually results in someone being inconvenienced.
Let's talk about being assertive when buying a product or a service.
Think about what happens if you complain about cold, underdone or tasteless food in a restaurant. Someone will be inconvenienced. The waitress and the kitchen staff. You may get a grumpy look from an unprofessional waitress. But that's it.
But now think. What is the worst that can happen when you are assertive?
Someone will be upset. Big deal. Life is tough. If they can't stand the heat, they should get out the kitchen.
If you are paying for a service or product, then you have the right to get that service or product and if getting it inconveniences a sales person or manager, TOUGH.
If they give you a dirty look, just ignore it. They have no right to give you a dirty look after giving poor service or selling poor quality products.
You have every right to get what you paid for !
Affirmations:
I am assertive
I'm not afraid of inconveniencing people sometimes
I have the right to get excellent service and products
Be all you can be.
“If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.” - David Viscott
When we start a project, we are sure we will succeed. We have faith in ourselves as we take the first steps to accomplishing our goals. But as time goes by we may become discouraged by the obstacles or difficulties. These may wear us down.
Here you have to remember that no matter how challenging it gets, you can succeed. If you had the courage to start then you also have the courage, within, to finish.
I wish life was easy. But it is not. The sooner we face that reality, the faster we can work at becoming successful. Although you have a goal, it does not mean that you will achieve it easily. You may have many struggles along the way. The work required to succeed may not be so difficult, but you will most probably face obstacles sooner, rather than later. Or you may have to learn new skills. It takes time to learn. Then you have to work consistently. You may have to persevere and do it every day. It may even feel like hard work at times.
But if you have have a dream, then you know that the only way to achieve it, is to persevere. Success does not come easy. You have to work and struggle sometimes. You have to be prepared to even shed blood. To make sacrifices and loose sleep.
But in the end, the reward is worth all the suffering that you endured. So just keep persevering.
Just keep on keeping on. We give up much too often. Now if you are out of your purpose and there is no joy and fulfilment in your work, then by all means GIVE IT UP!
But if you believe you are doing what you are meant to, and have the goals and plans in place with the right attitude and keeping your life balanced, then DON'T QUIT! Hang in there. Even if it hurts like hell!
All these challenges are making you stronger. Don't miss out on the character development by giving up. Just keep on keeping on. You are a Winner. And Winners never quit. Take breaks, but carry on fighting.
What a piece of work is man! How noble in reason! How infinite in faculty! In form, in moving, how express and admirable! In action how like an angel! In apprehension how like a god! -- William Shakespeare
You are an incredible creation, special in every way, born for great things, valuable beyond reason, able to touch your world and make a powerful difference through your influence and activity. You are a total Winner, destined to achieve success in all spheres of your life, supported by the universe and all that is good. Even God himself.
The only conclusion you can come to it is that you are absolutely AWESOME!
Have you noticed? When no one does anything, nothing gets done! "No, you're not serious?!!" you may ask in disbelief and wonder ;-)
We live like that often though, allowing frustrations to mount because we have not done something about them. Like cleaning the Garage (coz you can never find anything), asking the neighbour not to park opposite our driveway (coz we almost cause an accident every time we leave the house), resolving that conflict with a colleague – whatever the frustration is.
Perhaps we are too busy, or the job is too large. But every time we become aware of the problem the level of frustration rises.
"If it’s to be, it’s up to me" Just do it, Sort it out, before it drives you insane.
You'll feel great that you have done something about it. It will be one less "thing" to worry about. Get it done. You can!
"There lies within each person a huge reservoir of untapped potential for achievement, success, happiness, health and greater prosperity. It's like an ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channelled toward some great good." - Jim Rohn
I love this quote, because it reminds me that no matter what I have done, there is still so much more I can do to touch my world and impact it for good. What awesome things would you still love to do with your life, Jan? Don't think for a moment that you have nothing more to contribute. You have incredible potential inside, "waiting to be released and channelled toward some great good."
I look forward to reading your success story one day.
Hear is a wonderful poem by Edgar Guest:
It Couldn't be Done
Somebody said that it couldn't be done,
But, he with a chuckle replied
That "maybe it couldn't" but he would be one
Who wouldn't say so till he'd tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
On his face. If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn't be done, as he did it.
Somebody scoffed: "Oh, you'll never do that;
At least no one we know has done it";
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat,
And the first thing we knew he'd begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn't be done, and he did it.
There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
There are thousands to prophesy failure;
There are thousands to point out to you, one by one,
The dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle right in with a bit of a grin,
Just take off your coat and go to it;
Just start to sing as you tackle the thing
That cannot be done, and you'll do it
Just keep doing it.
Professor : You are a Christian, aren’t you, son ?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor: So, you believe in GOD ?
Student : Absolutely, sir.
Professor : Is GOD good ?
Student : Sure.
Professor: Is GOD all powerful ?
Student : Yes.
Professor: My brother died of cancer even though he prayed to GOD to heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But GOD didn’t. How is this GOD good then? Hmm?
(Student was silent.)
Professor: You can’t answer, can you ? Let’s start again, young fella. Is GOD good?
Student : Yes.
Professor: Is satan good ?
Student : No.
Professor: Where does satan come from ?
Student : From … GOD …
Professor: That’s right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?
Student : Yes.
Professor: Evil is everywhere, isn’t it ? And GOD did make everything. Correct?
Student : Yes.
Professor: So who created evil ?
(Student did not answer.)
Professor: Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the world, don’t they?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor: So, who created them ?
(Student had no answer.)
Professor: Science says you have 5 Senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Tell me, son, have you ever seen GOD?
Student : No, sir.
Professor: Tell us if you have ever heard your GOD?
Student : No , sir.
Professor: Have you ever felt your GOD, tasted your GOD, smelt your GOD? Have you ever had any sensory perception of GOD for that matter?
Student : No, sir. I’m afraid I haven’t.
Professor: Yet you still believe in Him?
Student : Yes.
Professor : According to Empirical, Testable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says your GOD doesn’t exist. What do you say to that, son?
Student : Nothing. I only have my faith.
Professor: Yes, faith. And that is the problem Science has.
Student : Professor, is there such a thing as heat?
Professor: Yes.
Student : And is there such a thing as cold?
Professor: Yes.
Student : No, sir. There isn’t.
(The lecture theatre became very quiet with this turn of events.)
Student : Sir, you can have lots of heat, even more heat, superheat, mega heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat. But we don’t have anything called cold. We can hit 458 degrees below zero which is no heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold. Cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it.
(There was pin-drop silence in the lecture theatre.)
Student : What about darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as darkness?
Professor: Yes. What is night if there isn’t darkness?
Student : You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light. But if you have no light constantly, you have nothing and its called darkness, isn’t it? In reality, darkness isn’t. If it is, well you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn’t you?
Professor: So what is the point you are making, young man ?
Student : Sir, my point is your philosophical premise is flawed.
Professor: Flawed ? Can you explain how?
Student : Sir, you are working on the premise of duality. You argue there is life and then there is death, a good GOD and a bad GOD. You are viewing the concept of GOD as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, Science can’t even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing.
Death is not the opposite of life: just the absence of it. Now tell me, Professor, do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?
Professor: If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, yes, of course, I do.
Student : Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?
(The Professor shook his head with a smile, beginning to realize where the argument was going.)
Student : Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavour. Are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you not a scientist but a preacher?
(The class was in uproar.)
Student : Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the Professor’s brain?
(The class broke out into laughter. )
Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor’s brain, felt it, touched or smelt it? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established Rules of Empirical, Stable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says that you have no brain, sir. With all due respect, sir, how do we then trust your lectures, sir?
(The room was silent. The Professor stared at the student, his face unfathomable.)
Professor: I guess you’ll have to take them on faith, son.
Student : That is it sir … Exactly ! The link between man & GOD is FAITH. That is all that keeps things alive and moving.
P.S.
I believe you have enjoyed the conversation. And if so, you’ll probably want your friends / colleagues to enjoy the same, won’t you?
Forward this to increase their knowledge … or FAITH.
By the way, that student was EINSTEIN.
